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Well, let’s see, I’ve been sitting here for 23 years now. So yeah, I think it’s safe to say that it’s pretty permanent. I’ve learned to bathe and clothe myself. I use a wheelchair but I can still drive a car, however I prefer riding my Harley. I can’t walk, but I can fly…

Whether it’s been a reporter interviewing me for my first solo flight as a paraplegic, or someone I meet on the street or in a grocery store or night club -

Each and every time I go out, I hear the same questions asked. My responses, at times, may sound “rehearsed” or “polished,” or not genuine enough – probably because I’ve answered them close to a million times.

So, let’s address the proverbial elephant in the room…

Here are some of those questions I get …

HOW WERE YOU INJURED? IS THIS PERMANENT?

WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP LIKE WITH THE OTHER PEOPLE WHO WERE IN THE CAR THAT NIGHT? DID Y’ALL EVER TALK ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED?

HAVE YOU FORGIVEN THE PERSON DRIVING THE CAR? HOW DO YOU THINK THE DRIVER FEELS?

HAVE YOU EVER FOUND YOURSELF IN DENIAL?

WHAT ABOUT FEELINGS OF GUILT?

DO YOU EVER HAVE DAYS WHEN YOU FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF?

DID YOU EVER CONSIDER KILLING YOURSELF?

WHAT’S THE BIGGEST CHALLENGE YOU’VE FACED BEING IN A WHEELCHAIR?

DO YOU EVER GET JEALOUS OF PEOPLE WHO CAN WALK?

CAN YOU STILL HAVE SEX?

ARE YOU STILL ABLE TO HAVE CHILDREN?

From time to time, I'll be posting some VERY candid responses to these questions (not necessarily in order) No holds-barred honesty.

Here, you’ll see me raw and real. You’ll see me for who I truly am.

Rules here are… there aren’t any… not when it comes to asking questions. So, fire away. Ask anything you want. If I’m not ready to answer it, I’ll let ya know.

And hopefully you’ll feel safe enough to show yourself and share your own unique story and your struggles.

Because we are not alone.